I have worked through the deep problems caused by my dysfunctional childhood.
Therefore, you should refrain from making comments or asking prying questions.
It is too easy for those who have never experienced the desperation and sorrow of a failed marriage to believe that “they could have done something to save it.” Let me assure you, the divorced Catholics I know (including myself) are spiritual, forgiving people who are committed to family and to the institution of marriage.
And they did all they could to save their marriages.
It is time for all of us in the Church to stop judging the divorced.
This may seem like a rationalization, but Jesus’ statement in Matthew 19:6 (“Therefore, what God has joined together, no human being must separate”) does not apply to all marriages.