Dating someone who doesn’t really know what he’s doing (in any sense) can get old, fast.
And since older men have already gone through the tumultuous ups and downs of youth, they’re usually more comfortable with who they are and what they want from life and relationships.
But by and large, we live in a world of extended adolescence where males are not expected to be and act like men until much later than their fathers and grandfathers were.
Here’s the problem—for a young woman like me, the socially acceptable, “ideal” mate is a man in his mid to late twenties.Most of the encounters I’ve had with young men have left me feeling more like a career counselor or a babysitter than a wooed woman.Of course, this isn’t always the case and there are definite exceptions.It’s a pretty dark view of something most of us know nothing about. For most of human history, it was normal and even expected for a younger woman to wind up with an older man. .) In fact, most of us probably need not look much further than our grandparents to see age gaps that would be considered scandalous today.There are more examples of this than one could possibly count in history, art, poetry, music, and literature. Granted, this was often because a woman desired the financial security of an established husband, and in turn, men desired a youthful, fertile bride who could bear and rear his children.